Am I overreacting that my entire family forgot my milestone birthday on my cousin's wedding day? I turned 30 this year. I'm a big fan of celebrating my birthday. At my 29th birthday, people started talking about the last year of my 20s, and I told them I had planned to do a big year of events all leading up to a huge party on my 30th birthday and a trip the week after. I thought it was fortuitous that my birthday was on a Saturday this year, so I planned on going big. One of my cousins asked about my birthday plans at Christmas and I told everybody about them. Well, on New Year's Eve, my cousin got engaged. They decided they wanted to get married by the end of the year and guess what date they picked? My birthday.

Immediately, her immediate family started getting defensive about it. When we had a family gathering and the relatively short planning time was mentioned until the wedding date, my aunt turned to me and said, "I guess you're just going to have to cancel your party." I didn't say anything. My cousin and her family continued to make snide remarks. Meanwhile, I didn't cancel my party. The wedding was set to be earlier in the day and dinner started at 6 p.m., so I decided to go out with my friends and they agreed to pick me up at 8:30. I accepted it and had a nice spa day the morning before the wedding.

So I was really upset when my mother was the only one who said happy birthday to me on the day of the wedding. I had never made a fuss about the date of the wedding so it's not like they had anything to worry about with me causing a scene. So, 8:30 rolls around. We have gone through all the scheduled activities and dancing was under way. I didn't think anybody would notice me leaving, but my aunt did and she confronted me, telling me it was rude to leave so early. I'd had enough of her comments at that point and I told her she had spent months being rude to me about my birthday and that I was going to my party. She tried to say something but I walked away. I had a great time with my friends and don't regret leaving the wedding. The next day, I left on a trip out of the country and didn't have access to my phone all day. I came back to a barrage of messages saying how nasty I was to my cousin. As it turns out, she didn't even notice I was gone! The thing is, even my mom thinks I went too far, so now I'm questioning whether I was wrong. What do you think?